The website Hornet published an article by Alexander Kacala on October 10. It was about a European homosexual named Nicolas Chinardet who refuses to use the word 'gay' to describe his sexual desire for other men. Oh. "'Gay' has a certain lifestyle attached to it," he declares, "which I don't recognize myself in."
You see, young Nicolas doesn't "go clubbing. I don't like shopping." He explains that he doesn't identify with "gay music, like Lady Gaga, Ariana Grande and Miley Cyrus" and "gay TV and movies, like Queer As Folk." He also has a brain the size of a pea.
In order to distinguish himself from the pack, to position his personal personality in some sort of unique way, like so many of his generation, Nicolas has decided to come up with a new term for his cocksucking. He refers to himself as an "androphile." He put the Greek prefix 'andro' (man) with the suffix 'phile' (lover). Voila! He's an androphile. So are all heterosexual women.
The article goes on to mention a young gay man from Hamburg, Germany named Henning Diesel. I'll give you a moment to absorb that name. Henning apparently shares alt-right memes, and he sucks cocks, but he also does not like to be called 'gay.' "Gay is part of the LGBT+ world that I never see myself as part of," the 37 year-old explains. He describes his personality as having "typically male characteristics like courage or diligence — very traditional aspects." Oh my, I do declare. One day I hope to meet a gay man with courage or diligence. Wait - that describes just about every gay man I've ever met. It comes with being the object of derision. Haters, including self-haters like Nicolas and Henning, have a way of making us tougher.
So it's sort of come full circle. Those of us old enough to remember can remember a time when white gay men were on their own, without allies, without stereotypical tastes and behaviours. We weren't called 'gay.' We were called 'fags' and 'fairies.' But really, Nicolas and Henning, what does it matter what any of us are called, so long as we aren't being beaten up for it.