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Vaginas Are Important!
BY SKY GILBERT

I was at the bar the other night (surprise) and a 'being' entered (I'm not sure how this person would identify but I thought she looked like a 'she') and she was butch, and I wasn't sure whether she was male or female, so I looked at her breasts and she didn't seem to have any (what is normally thought of as) female breasts, so I thought she might have identified as male....but I am pretty sure she had a vagina.



What is going on here?

Why does it suddenly sound so politically incorrect for me to wonder whether or not this being had a vagina?
 
My thesis is this: the trans movement devalues vaginas. (it also devalues penises, but penises are not really as important). 

 Can I can tell you something about vaginas? Vaginas are a big deal, and whether you have one -- or you don't -- is big deal. Vaginas are important because: 
a) you came from one
b)  they give enormous pleasure
It's hard to say which of these two is more important. I suggest 'you came from one' is important because no matter how queer or trans or whatever you are, nevertheless we all came out of vaginas and you wouldn't be here if it wasn't for a vagina, so it's important that you don't forget them.

The fact that a vagina gives enormous pleasure (to both the owner and the one who is the intruder into -- or whatever -- the vagina) is important too.

But the trans movement doesn't seem to care.

Trans people say:
"It doesn't matter whether you have a penis or vagina. It's the person you love." Or they say 
"Genitals don't matter"

I'm sorry, but they do.

Why do genitals matter? Because we are sexual people, and we have sex, and sex is involved with genitals, and generally speaking (I don't know how to break the news to you but) people are interested in either penises or vaginas. Usually not both. But if they are interested in both, it's not usually at the same time. But, if they are interested in both at the same time they still know (and this is very important) THE DIFFERENCE between a penis and a vagina.

VIVA LA DIFFERENCE!

I remember I had a friend once who was a female dyke who is now gender/sexuality indeterminate. When she was a female dyke she used to rant against scrotums. Yes she did. More power to her. I, personally, have always somewhat enjoyed scrotums, but I appreciated it that she did not. And I respected it. But 'she' (as a female person) is now gone. And the person she has become hasn't mentioned scotums in awhile.

The only way that trans activists have been able to get away with pretending that genitals don't matter, is that they are taking advantage of the anti-sex times we live in (yes sex is everywhere on the web, but that doesn't matter, we just pretend it isn't there, the web has become a way for us to universally sublimate sex, pretend it doesn't exist, because a lot of us have sex with our computers, and pretend no one knows!).
And frankly, I'm beginning to feel sorry for vaginas -- and for the women who are either are born with them, or somehow acquire them on the way -- because they are being devalued too.

As if women don't have enough trouble already, without us further devaluing their vaginas.
So I say -- be trans, be gay, bi. lesbian queer whatever.
But let me just say vaginas are important, and they mean something.
(And just for the record, the same is true of penises, too.)

Sky Gilbert is a Canadian writer, actor, academic and drag performer. https://skygilbert.blogspot.ca/

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