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The Lesbian Online Dating Scene in Toronto
By Alex Matveeva - Let'z TO

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Winter is coming, and soon enough all of us will be confined to the four walls of our bedrooms not wanting to go out into the cold. It's a disaster for those of us trying to date. Thankfully modern technology has allowed the lonely hearts out there to overcome this obstacle through online dating. 

Online dating has categorically changed the way people date and/or hook up nowadays. It's really convenient. You can go through the virtual experience of speed dating from the comfort of your own house, or even when you're bored on your commute from work. Whether you think it's good or bad, it's here to stay. So, with the help of some of our members, we've compiled a small list of online dating apps where you can meet your dream girl. 

OkCupid - This app has been around the block and by all accounts has the largest amount of lesbians on it. However, there are a few downfalls. First of all, if you're on it everyone will know you're on it, not just by accidentally swiping on your profile either. And once you've clicked on someone's profile they'll know and there is no amount of vodka you can drink to forget about accidentally clicking on the wrong profile in that case. One of our members expressed her opinion on this app: "I found that I couldn't use it properly unless I paid for it. You can find women but you can't really chat unless you get the membership." Although we should mention that OkCupid's redeeming quality is that you have the option to not appear to straight people, which can be comforting and save time. 

Plenty of Fish - This tool has also been around since the dawn of the online dating app. Although most of the members we've talked to said that it does not provide a safe space for the LGBTQ community. This is followed by a lot of requests for threesomes with straight couples and undesirable photos. 

HER - This app is often referred to as the lesbian answer to Grindr. It was created by a lesbian and strives to combine online dating along with providing a community feel. One of the app's major downfalls is that it cycles through the users even if you've already swiped 'no.' The user experience is not quite on par with what we're used to when borrowing the space in a straight app like Bumble or Tinder. One day you can swipe back on the members you swiped 'no' to, the next that feature is only available with a paid membership. The redeeming quality is that all the users are LGBT. From what we gather from our members the user preference in this medium is in having longer conversations. Although that may be good, more often than not having a conversation online is different than in person. As one of our members puts it: "Women there are very chatty and they don't want to meet for a coffee till you have a lot of conversations first. If there is no chemistry there then there isn't much a relationship, friendship or otherwise". But they do make up for it, HER throws great parties. The app has a team of volunteers who hold parties in cities like Toronto and Montreal along with the major cities across the US. From inviting cast members of Orange is the New Black to throwing pajama parties, it definitely interacts with our community and keeps on top of the latest trends. 

Tinder - This app has become so popular that it has made its way into pop culture. Although you can set your preference to women there is no real way of telling whether the users you are swiping on are straight unless they specify otherwise. The great thing about it is that the free version doesn't hinder your experience; if you choose the paid membership it only enhances it. As for the matches, one of our members has described it as "people who are using it are looking for sexting and sometimes unmatch with you randomly. Though I have gotten a few good dates out of it too".

Bumble - this app is relatively new on the market, but it's making great headway! The good thing about this app is that once you've swiped right you have 24 hours to respond otherwise the match disappears. Lesbians have historically been shy to make the first move, that's why a lot of your profiles are sitting there collecting likes and not conversations. With Bumble's 24 hour feature it lights a fire under you. They very well may have found a simple hack for getting the conversation started. So much so that if on Tinder out of every five matches starts one conversation, with Bumble that number jumps up to four out five. Maybe that's why there is a growing number of women who are choosing it. One of our members had this to say about the app: "With Bumble, you state your intentions and you go out, end of story. The women are willing to meet up and there are a lot fewer people asking you for threesomes with their boyfriends."

We'd like to mention that not all is lost in meeting your dream girl in person though. Through a quick google search you can find local events for LGBT women, browse through meetup.com and you can go on our website (letzto.com) that lists all the LGBTQ women friendly events in the city. Stay warm out there! 

Alex Matveeva - Let'z TO

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